Treat all better than they treat you, better than you want to be treated. I know the saying is a little more like ‘ treat others the way you want to be treated, ‘ but no ones knows what they really want.
Everyone just knows what they don’t want.
Whether this list of con’s come from experience, observation, or just wishful thinking.
Your expectations consist of a forever growing list of dislikes.
A person can never truly give you what’s needed and wanted when you don’t know the difference between what you desire and what your soul necessitates.
Instead of showing others your pet peeves, dislikes, or past emotional scars.
Show them your desires without the list of cons, let them learn who you are and widen your view.
They can learn from you as well as you can learn from them.
For you forever change day to day, and things are always different with different people.
The turn out is only the same when you treat them the same way you treat others before them.
And what you have tolerated and accepted as well.
If you tell them all the negative things you clung to, sooner or later they’ll give you what you expect.
Because that’s all they know.
Its like telling a person you hate warm water so they give you ice water.
If you had not told them that, you would have been given the varieties of wine, juice, soda, coffee, plus more.
But now that person doesn’t have to spoil you , learn your desires, or help you to accumulate more desires.
Why would they do that when you told them you like ice water?
No you never said that you only like water, but you only told them you hate warm water. You limited them, so instead of growing with you, they’re feeding your past and not your present.
I’m not talking about desiring something to drink, though you’re probably thirsty now lol, I’m figuratively speaking.
You limit your growth when you remain in the same thought process.
Its not always other people, sometimes its you.
I used to fear the rain, would always run to my moms room or hide beneath my covers. Now it soothes my spirit and relaxes my mood.
I used to love parties & the movies, now I prefer something a little more intimate or chaotic like a theme park.
Point being your taste changes like fine wine throughout the years.
Don’t have high expectations for a person you gave a list of rules too.
Ask your self how will they know what you like if , your cons are longer than your pros.
Its like constantly making sure you don’t step on someone’s feet while dancing.
You can’t truly enjoy the moment , or feel their heat mold against yours.
Hell you can’t even hear the music.
You’re putting their focus on the negatives. So all they know is negatives. Which builds your connection on a negativity.
Learn to let go, move on and grow.
Allow others to love, learn, and see you with a different view.
Your past was a lesson not to be repeated.
We must learn our favorites, attain more likes, retry things we hate, conquer our fears, and love sincerely.
Tough love, and food for thought.
Be loved all,
Be strong all,
Peace & Love Always
by jasmine aka beyond all eyes